“You can get so confused that you’ll start in to race, down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace, and grind on for miles cross weirdish wild space, headed, I fear, toward a most useless place. The Waiting Place…”
We’ve all been there. And it’s not fun. In fact, it’s down right awful. And it’s super easy to get stuck in the waiting place; where you feel like the victim of your circumstance, where you feel like you keep trying and trying and you just can’t seem to move forward, where the feelings of sadness, anger and frustration seem to be your permanent zip codes.
And as much as you don’t like it – ironically, it’s easier to sit in it than bust out of it. You get used to the bad feelings and although living through them again and again is hell you don’t move out and on.
Because you are not willing to be honest with yourself. Truth bomb, right there.
So, just so you know…this post is going to be seriously honest and very tough lovey so if you’re not ready – don’t keep reading. If you’re feeling strong and courageous and really want to unstick yourself, read on life warrior, read on…
Solving this dilemma requires tough love. Like Tough. Personal. Love. You’ve got to become the best inner Mr. T that you can – and don’t “pity the fool,” because the fool…is you.
I’m speaking from experience. I have been the pitiful fool wandering around asking “Why?,” “Why me?,” “How could this happen to me?” as recently as this past week. I know all about identifying with victim mode. And honestly, there is zero power in it. It’s a waste of your beautiful time and guess what? It is the cause of your waiting.
Here’s how to take your power back and get unstuck.
Instead of asking yourself Why? (which many times, isn’t answerable anyway) be honest with yourself. If you can’t do that, ask that honest, pain in the neck friend or relative. You know what I mean. This can be really, really hard and sometimes even devastating especially when you’re already feeling awful about yourself. But I promise you after the truth is revealed to you, it will get better and you will get unstuck.
Ask yourself (or annoyingly honest Uncle Bill) what message is being broadcast by the universe to you? Or in less spiritual terms…ask them to help you see the big picture. Ask, what am I doing to contribute to my being stuck? Then brace yourself. Accept the truth. Thank the person. Then breathe and eat chocolate. (You deserve it- you were really brave!)
After a little while, not too long start picking up the pieces by asking, “What am I learning right now?” (beside I don’t like this feeling). “What is the lesson?” And not in a aery faery kind of way…what am I learning about myself and this particular situation that continues to play itself out over and over? “What’s my part in it?”
The answer is way more relevant and insteresting and satisfying than “Why.” Because what you learn IS why it’s happening. It’s about the lesson and NOT the circumstance.
Then ask yourself, “What am I going to do differently now?”
And then do it. One or two steps in a different direction will make all the difference in the world.
Learning a lesson and then putting your wisdom (yes, sweet one, this is wisdom!) into action is far more interesting than trying to figure out why.
Focusing on the lesson and taking action is the way to get your power back. And getting your power back is a sure fire way to get unstuck. It may feel weird at first-because you’ll likely be doing things a bit different. But know, know in your heart of hearts that once you do this, you’ll be unstuck.
Now that wasn’t so bad was it?
Blessings on your journey. Know we are sending you love and light, courage and strength.
And as always, We’re rooting for you!