"The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you’ll learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same, nor would you want to."
- Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler
Ugh, there is nothing beautiful to say about grief. Grief is brutal. And it comes in many forms—the death of a loved one, the loss of a relationship, home, career, or anything you thought might be forever.
I think the most helpful thing in the quote above, and something I have learned first hand, is "...you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same, nor would you want to."
As it's been said, "No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man," grief changes us, and it's the struggle to find ourselves again in the context of our new reality that requires, among other things, deep love, patience, and healing.
Crystals, like friends and family, can walk alongside you. They can help to provide a kind of focused support. When you see, touch, or wear a crystal that helps with grief, you can be reminded that even though you will never be the same, there is hope. Hope that because of your loss, you will become wiser, better, stronger, and more compassionate. To know grief is to have known love.
We are spiritual beings having a human experience and grief is an inevitable part of it.
NURTURING CRYSTALS TO SUPPORT GRIEF
GREEN ONYX for bereavement
At SoulKu, we identified early on the healing properties of Green Onyx and how well it supports anyone who wai grieving. Green Onyx is a soothing, supportive, strengthening stone that helps to comfort, stabilize emotions and heal the heart after a great loss.SHOP NOW
ROSE QUARTZ FOR LOVE
Any stone that works with the heart chakra - like Rose Quartz - is a terrific support. Rose Quartz helps us to see beauty in the world, calm emotions and open the heart. While opening the heart may be the very last thing you'd want to do - it is where the healing needs to take place. Rose Quartz will help with a gentle, compassionate calming energy that can literally be leaned into. It is a stone of unconditional love.SHOP NOW
GREEN AVENTURINE FOR HEALING
Green Aventurine is another heart nourishing stone. It also provides protection, comfort and amplifies perseverance - as grief requires much perseverance. Green Aventurine creates a sweet and soothing love bubble around you that calms the emotions and works to feed and support the heart.SHOP NOW
AMETHYST FOR HEALING
Amethyst is another wonderful heart and whole body, mind and soul healer. Amethyst works by helping to protect you from negative energies. The stone's calming and soothing qualities help us to be more in touch with the divine. It's a good stress reliever and promotes a clarity and peace of mind that help us move through difficult times. Its rich and beautiful purple color can act as a natural tranquilizer when one focuses their gaze on it. It can help to dispel some of the emotions that can accompany grief including rage, fear, anger and anxiety.SHOP NOW
SMOKY QUARTZ FOR RELEASE
One of the stages of grief is depression. Smoky Quartz helps to fight off that hazy, dark, shrouded feeling by helping to neutralize negative energy. It will help you to release, little by little, the darkness, clear away the haze and feel more like yourself. It helps to lift the heaviness that grief comes with, transforming it into an opening for us to pass through to acceptance.SHOP NOW
BLACK ONYX FOR STRESS RELIEVING STRENGTH
Black Onyx - which is universally known as a stress reliever can also help. What any grief survivor can tell you is that despite their catastrophic loss, life goes on. Not only are they dealing with the pain of their loss, they're dealing with everyday stressors. Black Onyx can provide some relief in the way of a soft, soothing stone that helps to alleviate stress and worry and anchors in strength.SHOP NOW
BLUE GOLDSTONE FOR COMFORT
A stone of deep comfort (cause let's face it, some days, grief can take over and you just want to be in a comfortable place, cuddled up, like a child) Blue Goldstone - works with the heart and spirit, providing a gentle feeling of being held in a safe place. It also encourages, coaxes, the idea that despite the darkness, someday, somewhere, somehow there will be light and that light is worth hanging on.SHOP NOW
LEPIDOLITE FOR INNER PEACE
Lastly, we strongly recommend Lepidolite. Lepidolite helps you to anchor in that inner peace, that inner knowing that you are still whole, even after a devastating loss. It is also a stone of transition. It will help you move through all the spaces you need to move through, think of it as a gentle guide that helps you to the next stage in your grief. It will help to balance all the unruly emotions that come with grief so that you may find places of rest, renewal and inner peace.SHOP NOW
At SoulKu, our soul mission is "to be in service." Inside that mission are a bunch of humans that feel a lot. We want you to know that whenever someone experiences a great loss, that we want to help, to move energy, to hold space, to be open hearts that give and give. We believe in the healing powers of thought and Intention, and we know that our crystals carry so much love. Love from the earth. Love from our sweet mamas that handcraft each one. And love from The Universe that guides us. We're so deeply, deeply honored to be in service to our customers on their darkest days. Thank you for allowing us to serve in this way.